The Upgrade Experience

That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable.”  ―  Deb Caletti I actually wrote this over a year & a half ago as a Facebook note, & my day one Tenille recently reminded me of it... It's speaking to my spirit, ya'll... How many times have you heard that saying??? "Blood is thicker than water..."  Uuuuum, I'm sure it is, duh!!! LoL... Take a seat, collect a sample of the two, and see for yourself... I mean, u can't deny it!!! However, we use the phrase in reference to the difference in the bond between blood-related folks & non-blood related folks.  I've always understood the theory, but that doesn't mean I've always, or ever will, agree with it... See, there's a bit of a "gypsy spirit" in me... ;) I am a firm & avid supporter of "free love"... Your ULTIMATE free-spirit, if you will...  There are folks who are born into this w

"What if God were one of us? Just a slob like one of us? Just a stranger on a bus trying to make his way home???" - Chris Ramsey I'm a nomad...  I call myself that with a bit of reserve... I guess because when YOU read that, it damned near sounds like "homeless"... LoL... But, there's a back-story to that... When I left home for college at UAPB, I went into the dorms l;like most folks... During my sophomore year, my mama couldn't afford the room & board, so I was having to drive back & forth from Little Rock to Pine Bluff everyday & that just wasn't working for the kid... So, it was decided that I would move in with my boyfriend at the time (who later became my BABY DADDY & husband) to cut down on the stress of the commute...  And that was the beginning of it all... After college, we moved to Texas & every house we moved into was better than the last one... The last home that we owned was my favorite... It was on acreage &am

"Life is too important to take seriously." - Corky Siegel It's 1:32 am & I've been home about 20 minutes...  I'm text-beefing (which I stand STRONGLY against) with someone I car about...  I just ate some one's taco & they're probably gonna be PISSED in the morning... I'm listening to "My Heart Will Go On'" (wtf)... I'm in the clouds... And guess what??? All is right with the world... Sometimes, you just have to live a little...  If I spent EVERY waking moment worrying about my MANY trials in life, I'd be FUCKED... (Please excuse the language, but that word TRULY captures the essence of how I'd feel...)  I have to take moments in this life and just LIVE... Just enjoy the little things... Appreciating a good meal with even better company...  Having a drink and a laugh... Noticing the way that a man looks at me when I walk by him, just from the hint of my perfume... Hearing my daughter call me just to say, "Mama

"Top notch pros get the most not the lesser..." - Pimp C Yes, I gave you a quote from Plato in my last blog... And yes, I'm giving you some Pimp C this time around... Realness comes from all walks of life, my friends...  You can get a different bit of truth from all different corners...  You just have to be willing to accept it... I'm hard on guys... I know this without a shadow of a doubt... It's not that I'm mean or anything, I'm just a straight shooter... I call it out like I see it... I don't have time for games or foolery...  I set the standard from day ONE so there's no confusion as to how I roll or what my expectations are... And if that's too much, I politely show the door... Exit stage left... Simple... See, we become what we tolerate...  If you go into a situation with someone who's lying all the time, putting their hands on you, talking to you any kind of way, using you for your money, or any of that other monkey-shit, the

"Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion, and knowledge." - Plato I have been on my worst behavior... No lie... Like, in REAL life... I have been making some TERRIBLE choices... And it's not even that they're terrible choices, they're just choices that I've been making as a reaction to my emotions... Let's just say that they could be BETTER choices... See, I always tell y'all that when you know better, you do better... That's the honest-to-God-given truth... I know better... I mean, I have been down THROUGH there... I've seen some things, good & bad, over these 32 years that have led me to be an EXPERT on certain topics...  But some of these same experiences have led me to this place where I am now... This place of bad behavior... If you follow me on Instagram, then you know that I'm a FOOL with it... Daily... People see my posts & assume they know me... Can I blame them, though??? I'm the one postin